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I'll be thinking of you today Lorna and hoping your Dad's funeral is the presious event you have worked so hard to arrange. So glad you have had some comfort from his friends and also your family. It does seem such a short time from being diagnosed, but there is also some blessing in that.
Bear up today. You have managed amazingly. You're going to need lots of rest afterwards. Much love, Ailsa
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Dear Lorna
Yes everything happenned so quickly for you.
I will be thinking of you this afternoon.
With love Rose
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Dear Lorna
My thoughts and prayers are with you today. I am sure it will be such a comfort to you in the days to come that you did all that you could for your dad and made his last days on this earth the best that they could be. You need have no regrets.
Take it easy in the days to come and although the memories are very painful at the moment, in time you will remember all the good times you had with your dad.
Best Wishes
Sue
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Thinking of you especially today Lorna.
Love, Doreen xx
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hi Lorna,
hope all went well as it could,
sending my Best Wishes on this sad day.
Suzanne x
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Hi Lorna
Thinking of you today.
Love and hugs
Sue
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Dear Lorna,
My thoughts are with you.
Warm hugs,
Fiona
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Dear Friends,
Dad's funeral was really lovely, the place was full and people standing. The piper piped Dad into the Crematorium, the music was beautiful. Dad's service was a Humanist Service and was tailored and very fitting to Dad. I read my poem well and did not get upset at that point, my Husband and Eldest Daughter also read one. I think he would have been very proud, we had Johnny Cash Walk the Line, on entering the service, then the Civil Servant say a short story about dads life, then we had Johnny Cash The old Rugged Cross for the committal and Frank Sinatra My Way for leaving the service. Everyone said it was very fitting to Dad.
Once at the tea afterwards we had a disk playing pictures of Dad's life which was really enjoyed by all. We had a lovely time talking to all his friends and sharing stories. He was so well thought of by all. I left around 8pm as I was exhausted and needed my bed, but the family all stayed till later, everyone kept saying how wonderful and fitting everything had been, they told me how much Dad had talked about me, and how proud he was. I felt so happy to hear the stories that were told.
They are to have a picture of Dad enlarged and mounted on the wall with a little plaque underneath saying who he is, they also asked for a copy of the disk of pictures of Dad so it could be played, it's nice to know he wont be forgotten.
We have collected around £300+ for the Macmillan Nurses plus a £50 donation from my cousin and Mhairi's £80+ total too.
I am still struggling with the loss of Dad but I am sure he would be so proud of how everyone pulled together to give him the send off he so rightly deserved.
Love Lorna xxx
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Dear Lorna, I think your dad would be very proud of the funeral you arranged for him, and I am so pleased that so many people attended - he must have been very highly thought of. It`s good that you had many people to share memories of your dad with you. Now that the funeral is over you will feel exhausted, so please try to get plenty of rest. Take care, Kathleen C x
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Well sadley i don,t think my Dad has much longer ?????????He has gone downhill . He is 81 but the moment he has some enjey he is outside doing or on his scooter . My Dad was a Blacksmith from the age of 14 or from 11yrs as he used to miss school too work for his Dad .The blacksmiths shop is gone ,It was the longest serving blacksmiths in Suffolk 180 yrs .I can rembember him shoeing suffolk punches ( working horses only ) Suffolk was behind times and horses used to be part of farms . suffolk punches around to middle 60s then no one bred them and they got rare .They where a loveley horse pulling poughs and carts they have a very wide back and you can,t or have a job to ride them with a sadle .I used to ride them bear back and hang on to the mane . My Dad has blacksmiths stuff in the garage to play with he will do a very tiny bit .Help my Brother in law by smithing his tools . Why his body has just about had it . chris The chocolate eating housewife ...The washer woman .....naughty lady
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Hi lorna now exactly how you feel I thought my dad would always be there for me after losing my mum at sixteen from c my dad saw me through boyfriends (with judgment) he saw me to the alter at my wedding and saw my first and only child and was very supportive and involved in my life.He baby sat and we went out for picnics all over the place and I loved every moment never thought he would not be hear.I am now seventeen years on after his death and still miss him badly and i feel so guilty that I don't feel the same for the loss for my mum ? does it make me mean ?that I loved my dad more than my mum I feel so guilty sometimes.But you had great times from the posts you have put on and he would be proud of you.You keep all your happy memories in your heart as I do and think how lucky we were to have such a lovely DAD. take care x
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Hi Mags
I felt exactly the same when my dad died. He was my best friend. He died 23 years ago and I still miss him terribly. Don't feel guilty about thinking you love your dad more than your mum. I have always felt that but I am sure that it is not so much that as the fact that there is a special bond between father and daughter as there is between mother and son. That's how nature works. Your mum would be delighted that you loved your dad so much I know mine was.
Love Sheila x
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Thankyou Mags, I was so close to my dad and like you had a super relationship with him, we did holidays together and had lots of the same interests too. I am so happy we had two holidays in Norway, Dad loved these holidays and he is remembered by so many friends he made out there.
I miss him terrible and was only just starting to come to terms with things, and today I was at a dear friends funeral and they had picked The Old Rugged Cross too and I was in bits again, it is only 8 weeks since losing my dad and it is still so raw. Dad loved this song, and we had Jonny Cash singing it at the committal at his funeral.
My daughter gets married next year and we are struggling to deal with the fact he will not be there. I know he will be there in spirit but I would love him to be there in person. I really feel he is around me a lot of the time, I can feel his presence when I am busy in the garden. I asked him to stay close before he died, and he said if it was at all possible he would do, my girls have felt his presence too. We were a very close family and spent lots of quality time together. Dad was always very special to me, I just had to ask and he was there for me. I loved him so much and miss him so much. He is the brightest star in the sky now.
Lorna xx
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Oh Lorna
My heart goes out to you. I know how you feel because I feel the same about my dad who died 23 years ago. What I am absolutely certain about is that your dad will be there at the wedding and he will get you through it. I believe that your dad, as is mine, is always there with you through the good and the bad and all you need to do is talk to him like you did when he was alive. He can do far more for you now than he could then and you now have him 24 hours a day. How good is that?
I will remember you in my prayers.
Love Sheila x
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Lorna-A wrote:
Hi All,
The last few days have been a nightmare for all of us, my dad was diagnosed with cancer and we have been devastated. It was the hardest thing in the world to sit and listen to someone tell you that your dad is going to die. I feel completely numb, and dad has been so ill and didn't expect that news, he was in complete disbelief.
I don't know where I got my strength from today, I called this morning and asked how he had slept and how he was feeling now the news had sunk in. I chatted to him for a few minutes and then called the nurses back and asked if we could take him out for a few hours. The charge nurse arranged this and he wanted his haircut, then we went for lunch at a restaurant by the beach. After that we took him home to check on things. He enjoyed his while out but was tired when we got back. He looked so well and had a good colour with the fresh air.
It's so hard to take it on board, you just feel you want to scream, but it is all in your head. We are a very close family and this is hurting so bad, my girls are so close to him and can't face what is going to happen. This is when you sit and think of all the bad people in the world and ask WHY did it have to be him? I live in hope he will keep really positive and delay the inevitable.
Thank you for being there, it is good to write down the despair I feel.
Lorna x
So So sorry to hear your sad news Lorna been through it with my own dad and then my 40 yr old big bro last year my thoughts are with you and your family at this time xx
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Hi Becky I'm being a bit cheeky responding to your post but didn't want you to think it had been overlooked. Lorna is away on holiday for a few weeks. I will be speaking with her on her return :) Lyn x
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Hi Becky,
Thank you for your post, it really has been an emotional roller coaster for the last few months. I just got back from Norway on Wednesday after a fab holiday. My heart goes out to you too for the loss of your Dad and Brother. They say time heals but it still hurts so very much, I've had a weepy day today again, I can't seem to get my head around Dad not going to be at my Daughters Wedding, early next year. The plans are well under way now, I just wish he could be there too.
Take care Lorna x
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Hi Lorna i still have tears for my dad/brother always wiil and your dad will see her married as he is with you all every day in your heart .
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Hi Becky,
Thank you for your kind post, I have been really struggling this last few weeks. I was on auto pilot for all the time dad was ill, I had to be or I would never have coped. Thing is now the shock and dis belief have passed and the hole which this has left, I feel upset so much it really hurts, I miss him so very much.
I am seeing the doctor this week as I have to try to get my head around things, they say time heals but it takes time.
Thank you again Lorna x
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Hello Lorna
Sorry to feeling so down it will be good to chat with your Doctor if he is a good listener. When my Mum died
I was distraught and I was referred to a coucillor and had 5 / 6 chats of half an hour each time and although
at the time I did not think it was doing me any good, as cried and cried.
It will never go away but it does get easier to deal with.
Take care
Rose
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